Picture this, your friends, family or anyone close to you organise something, and it sounds fun and exciting. The only downside is that you honestly don’t feel like going out because you’re mentally drained.
So what choice do you make?
- Agree to go out even though you know it’s going to further drain your social resources
- Say no, and take the time to relax and take a mental health day.
Now I’ve spent the better half of my life picking the first option for many different reasons. The most obvious one is I generally didn’t want to upset or offend anyone by not going out. Maintaining friendships is a delicate balance once you finish school so I’d push myself to go to every outing that my friends invited me to in the hopes of continuing our friendship.
There was also an element FOMO (fear of missing out) I won’t lie. I was afraid to miss out on things happening, and then not understanding the inside jokes or having to be told about funny things that happened.
It generally got to the point where I was physically, emotionally and mentally drained and I couldn’t function properly anymore, and that’s when I decided to finally start saying no to people. Because sometimes staying at home, whether you’re sleeping or just chilling is important. We need time to recharge, especially if you’re more on the introverted side.
TLDR: If you’re wiped out, it’s ok to say no to people. Don’t feel obligated to go out to every single event and outing. Take time to focus on your own mental health 🙂