Self-love isn’t the easiest journey, there’s a lot of ebbs along the road but honestly, when you’re further on the path away from self-hatred it is worth it. Here are some useful steps that I’ve both found on the internet and have discovered on my own.
Put yourself first!
We often get in the habit of helping out other people, which is a good thing, however, there are times when helping out someone else becomes draining, and you end up in a worse way as a result. It’s important to put yourself first otherwise you’ll end up down in a rut, and as drained as a dementor victim.
Give yourself ‘me’ time!
Day to day life is hectic, sometimes we’re busy from the moment we wake up to when we go to sleep. Living like that 24/7 can be detrimental to your health in every single way, so it’s super important to give yourself some time in the day that is solely devoted to yourself. It can honestly make a massive difference, even if it’s just 5 minutes.
Don’t compare yourself to other people!
This one’s a tough one mainly because we get in the habit of comparing ourselves to other people at such a young age, but the moment you quit that habit it changes your whole outlook on other people. Instead of looking at everyone as a personal challenge, see them as allies and help one another. Everyone has their strengths, and by seeing theirs in a positive way, it will eventually lead to you seeing your own characteristics in a positive way.
Celebrate other people and their achievements!
This one ties in with the last point, so first, you stop competing with other people, and now you start celebrating them. Whether it’s their looks, their achievements, it starts a positivity spiral and honestly it’ll change your outlook. I noticed this when I was a teenager, the girls who hated on other girls, or picked apart their appearance, were the most insecure ones who felt like everyone was judging them. Now if you switch from judging someone to celebrating them, it makes a world of a difference to the way you view yourself and the world.
Realise your emotional health is valid!
We all focus so much on our physical health we forget that our emotional health exists, and it’s completely valid. It’s important to keep a track of and links into the point about taking time to reflect on yourself. Personally, as an introvert, I get overwhelmed if I’m around people for too long and need to recharge, and taking the time to do this makes a world of a difference to my emotional health.
Hype yourself up – modesty is overrated!
Now a wise person once said, ‘if you don’t hype yourself up, who will’, am I saying the wise person is me? – maybe. But honestly, it’s so true. We need to hype ourselves up and celebrate our talents because the world won’t always recognise you. This will also help with your self-confidence and lead to you learning to love yourself in the long run.
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