“Women are not rehabilitation centres for badly raised men.”
We are not homes for them to go for fixing, it’s not our job to undo their bad behaviours and take their emotional and physical beatings just because they weren’t raised correctly.
It’s not our responsibility to take these broken boys and make them into better human beings. Every single person is responsible for their own actions, thoughts and opinions regardless of their gender. It’s honestly ridiculous how women are encouraged to play the role of the carer from childhood.
We’re given baby dolls to look after while young boys are given toys to build and are given action toys. We’re encouraged to learn how to cook and clean whereas boys are taught to build a future. We’re essentially programmed into being caretakers and that leads to a need to fix men and help them with all their issues and problems.
This leads to families where women are expected to look after the house, do the chores, look after children on top of actually working. Whereas men only have the responsibility for their actual work. This is called invisible labour.
Lisa Wade wrote for money.com and said:
“Walzer found that women do more of the intellectual, mental, and emotional work of childcare and household maintenance. They do more of the learning and information processing (like researching pediatricians).
They do more worrying (like wondering if their child is hitting his developmental milestones). And they do more organizing and delegating (like deciding when the mattress needs to be flipped or what to cook for dinner).
Even when their male partners “helped out” by doing their fair share of chores and errands, it was the women who noticed what needed to be done. She described, in other words, exactly the kind of work that Seidman’s poem captures so well.”
Women being the primary caregivers regardless of whether they work or not is something that is common and drains the emotional energy of women everywhere.
In some cases it can lead to abusive situations as being groomed as caregivers at a young age leaves young women believing it’s their job to fix the ‘broken man’.
We need to encourage women to be the architect of their own futures, build their own life, and not live to care for anyone else!
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