An idea given to me by one of the most sarcastic women I know, aka Hanifa Kamal
I honestly don’t know how to start this post off delicately because this is an issue I see a lot of people struggle with in their day to day lives. They are afraid to eat in public, act out in public and just be themselves because they fear what everyone else with think about them. They fear the tyranny, the judgement and being seen in a negative light, but here’s the thing – people honestly don’t care. They don’t give a shit about what you’re doing and how you’re existing.
The way I stopped giving a shit about people was to look at how I see other people. The less judgement I threw out, the less I gave a shit about how I appeared to others, and then when you actually pay attention to the conversations around you, you realise that most people aren’t watching what you do. Most people just care about what they’re doing, because people are selfish. Which should be a negative, but in this case it’s a good thing. They’re too selfish to care about that embarrassing thing you did, or how much you eat in public.
One thing I’ve found is that the people who judge others the most, are the people who care the most about what others think about them. Feel free to disagree with that point because I could be wrong, but when someone says ‘oh look at what that person is eating’ will also ask ‘if I eat this will people judge me/think I’m fat’. Whereas people who just allow others to eat and don’t pay attention to those things, are the same people who are fine eating whatever they want.
It’s all about mentality at the end of the day. We have a limited amount of shits we can give out to people and situations, let’s not be too charitable with them. It makes life a lot easier, and it’ll help you in general be less hard on yourself.