The quest for perfection, whether it’s in our looks, our abilities or even just in what we’re doing, we always seek to do it in a perfect way, but what is perfection?
A quick google search defines it as ‘having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be’. The thing is, whilst we’re all running around and trying to seek this we end up screwing ourselves over because it doesn’t actually exist. Let’s start with the fact that our interpretation of it is entirely subjective, so how on earth can you even achieve a thing that isn’t agreed upon by everyone as a whole.
It’s also just a myth in general, no one can actually become perfect, and us striving for it just leads to a life filled with a set of self destructive behaviours and a lot of self loathing and shame. The best athlete in the world doesn’t have the best performance or physique in their opinion and are always striving for more and working harder – despite being the best at their game. The best artists out there, who are internationally revered still find faults in their pieces of work, despite everyone loving them.
At the end of the day it’s good to strive to be the best version of yourself, but don’t let the idea of perfection shackle you in self hatred. Sometimes the fear of the need to be perfect can also stop you from actually going for jobs, activities and in some cases your actual dreams – you don’t have to be perfect for anything because it doesn’t exist.
If anything it’s flaws that make people amazing at what they do, and it teaches you lessons that can’t be taught if you do everything amazingly the first time.
Kevin Schoeninger said: “The myth of perfection needs to be made conscious before you can let it go and choose another outlook. Until you recognize it and can pause it as it arises, you’ll be a slave to its mythical power.”