Sadfishing is one of those things that I’ve always had a morbid fascination in watching but I never had the language to communicate why. To begin with let’s actually explain what sadfishing actually is, since I didn’t realise that this actually was a proper word until I read an online article about it. So sadfishing is the online trend of people make extremely overexaggerated claims in order to gain sympathy.
Remember the days when someone would write a Facebook status about how sad they are and how every things going wrong, but when anyone enquired about it they would reply with ‘dw about it x’, it’s that but it’s also evolved with the rise of Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat. As far as I’m aware this isn’t a thing on Tik Tok, but correct me if I’m wrong.
Now, if you’ve been following this blog for a while you know I’m all for people sharing their mental health struggles and I’m always for more awareness, but sadfishing is different. It’s more of a celebrated victim complex and utter garbage most of the time – think of people using their depression as an aesthetic and promoting self destructive behaviours as a solution.
Some even go as far as saying theres no help out there and they’re doomed to get worse, which is not only fucked up but could lead some people down some dangerous paths. These sadfishers are triggering and promoting unhealthy thought processes, so why do I spend a lot of time watching them, well the answers simple – I have a morbid fascination in many things, and some of those include other peoples open displays of emotion online, and that includes sadfishing.
I think it’s because I’m a relatively closed off person, so when I see people doing the exact opposite online I find it interesting. I wonder how they can be so open without worrying about any possible consequences, but also in the case of sadfishing I’m aware a lot of what they do is for the clout, for attention and ultimately for the wrong reasons so I don’t feel any sympathy for them.
Which sounds a bit fucked up but let me explain what I mean. So in a lot of their cases they are suffering, I won’t take that away from them, but a lot of them are in really privileged positions, they can get the right help and in some cases are. Some choose to present their mental health struggles in a pessimistic and cynical light and honestly with every breakdown comes a lot of backlash so I find it hard to sympathise with them since they’re basically promoting their sadness as a way of life and an aesthetic.
I personally blame Effy from Skins, she popularised this shit.
I guess this would also be the time to caveat that I don’t see anyones actual struggles as sadfishing, there’s a difference between a cry for help and a cry for clout and I think it’s important to recognise that. If you’re following a blogger that has grown their audience from their struggles and seems to have regular breakdowns that occur whenever they need boost of followers – than those are the sadfishers we need to throw in the bin.
Or if you’re like me watch them as a cautionary tale.
I wouldn’t recommend watching them a lot, especially if you’re prone to being effected by their displays of sadness. I can detach pretty easily from it all, so that’s why I’ll have the popcorn ready to watch it all.
Does anyone else do this, or am I in the sick minority?